Patience & Fortitude

The Freedom to Funeral

I was talking to my friend David recently about funerals. He is an observant Jew who had attended an Evangelical Christian funeral, and was appalled by the fact that the music was recorded. I have to assume it was a pretty terrible choice of hymns or a cheap sound...

Death and Social Media

I often question the value of this blog. After all, while grief is a permanent state its intensity varies over time and circumstances. I’m not sure, either, what I have to offer is very much by way of comfort. I don’t coat grief with a film of sentiment,...

Facing the emptiness

I wrote Grieving Futures back in 2010, and threw it up online pretty quickly. It served as a cathartic bleed out of my emotions regarding my experiences with grief, and as tool in helping to reach out to other grievers. It lives up to its dual purposes, I think. But...

Be free, be free

The phrase “Let go and let God” has a lot of cultural currency. When people are facing overwhelming trauma, be it grief or drug addiction or a bad day at work, the phrase is pulled out to help people untangled their emotions and let go of what is troubling...