Patience & Fortitude

Facing the emptiness

by | May 1, 2013 | Reflections

I wrote Grieving Futures back in 2010, and threw it up online pretty quickly. It served as a cathartic bleed out of my emotions regarding my experiences with grief, and as tool in helping to reach out to other grievers. It lives up to its dual purposes, I think. But...

The Troy Syndrome

by | Feb 1, 2013 | Grief, Reflections

Over at Planet Grief, Helen Bailey wrote an evocative and emotional post, Life, Death and Laundry, about post-death hoarding. She talks about keeping things long past their “due date” and her unwillingness to wash the bedsheets she had once shared with her...

Bringing in an empty year

by | Jan 3, 2013 | Grief, Mourning

I am hitting the 20 year mark for my mother’s death. In the spring of 1993, she was diagnosed with fatal colon-rectal cancer. She had already been in pain and bleeding for nearly a year. She did not go seek medical help earlier because she believed we...