Patience & Fortitude

Tell me about it

A co-worker’s nephew, who was only in his early 30s, dropped dead a few weeks ago. He did have some health issues but they were being managed so this came as a huge shock to the family. Given my extensive experience with grief and mourning, I’m always...

Gratitude in the Void

Today in the United States of America, it is Thanksgiving, but in truth there are many things I’m not grateful for. Such as, the deaths of my parents. No, I will never be grateful for that. Thanksgiving is the holiday I remember most from my childhood.It was the...

Linkage: Death Rituals Unusual and Rare

Not much to add insofar as editorial comment, as these sometimes extreme mourning rituals kind of speak for themselves. I think it is food for thought, though, about the ubiquitous need we have to find some dramatic marker for the end of life. As...

The painful reminder of things

My friend and fellow author Dallas Taylor recently posted about how we relate to the objects in our lives, all the things we cart around and store and display and sometimes get rid of. It’s a touching essay because he is talking about an aspect of sentimentality...

The place of anger in grief

Author and blogger Victoria Noe, who runs the Friend Grief website (which you should definitely visit!) recently posted to her facebook wall about her upcoming book release. The book is titled “Friend Grief and Anger: When Your Friend Dies and No One Gives a...