Aftermath: Waste Disposal (Grieving Futures)
I did not realize that when a person dies, their body does not magically disintegrate a lá Obi Wan Kenobi in Star Wars. Let this be a lesson to young adults everywhere: do not base your conception of reality on your favorite movie…
I’m a hardass! *shock*
I was really surprised the other day to find out that I’m a hardass. Now, I know I’m incredibly judgmental, and because I know that, I work really hard not to be because it is borne out of my own insecurities. It’s not fair to be a real hardass to other people based...
On Fantastic Friends
Friendship is not, of course, all about what other people do for you. But it IS about acceptance and trust and support.
A safe place to break
I’m rather used to going into emotional shock, sorry to say. I don’t handle it well, at least I don’t think so, and when I walked through the door into the living room I just kept going, back to my bedroom…
REC Saturday: Elbert Hubbard
Genius is often only the power of making continuous efforts. ~ Elbert Hubbard I will lay fair odds that you probably have not heard of Elbert Hubbard. That fact is a shame, because he was one of the great progressives of the early 20th century: a philosopher with a...
What do you live for?
In the midst of crisis and therapy and angst, I woke up one day and realized that I had nothing to live for.
Welcome to 2011!
[foregoing the usual “REC Saturday” post in order to herald in the New Year!] I turned 41 back in August. This is not something I have much of an opinion about as a number as I don’t have a lot of baggage associated with “growing older.” However a loooong time ago, I...
Walking Backwards into the Future
Mistakes haunt us. Regrets torment us. Grief – for any loss – rips at us. We pick at these wounds hoping for miraculous healing. We study them, trying to figure out what went wrong. We relive them in our minds over and over looking for what we could have done...
Do you want to wake up tomorrow?
Sometimes I stay up late – really late. I’m so tired my eyes water but I force myself to stay up, distracting myself with nonsense. It hurts, and I hate it, but it’s a hard habit to break. When I get squirrelly in the evening, I know it’s going to be one of those...
REC Saturday: Brene Brown TEDtalk
As stated on the TEDtalk page for this vid, Brene Brown “studies vulnerability, courage, authenticity, and shame” and this talk is a brilliant overview on the connections between all of those factors. I cannot recommend this vid highly enough. Not only is Dr. Brown...
The time of year to be overwhelmed
Unlike a lot of people here in the U.S., I don’t get very stressed about Christmas. For one thing, if you come from a very small family most of whom are dead, then you don’t really feel the familial pressure of gift giving, cards, parties, traveling, etc. For another,...
Tragedy changes us; Patience tempers us; Fortitude keeps us going.
Lessons in grief, crisis, and recovery from 30 years of life as an adult orphan from a GenX woman who has resentfully struggled every step of the way.
