Aftermath: Waste Disposal (Grieving Futures)
I did not realize that when a person dies, their body does not magically disintegrate a lá Obi Wan Kenobi in Star Wars. Let this be a lesson to young adults everywhere: do not base your conception of reality on your favorite movie…
Scared to Sprint
I was hit recently with an interesting insight that had never occurred to me: I don’t just hate how I look. No, I’m scared of my body…
Sometimes figure things out is the hard part
Anyway, to figure out what I love, I had to be ready to defend it, something that was difficult to do when I was not even sure of what I loved yet.
Getting Walled In – or not
Knowing that you love something requires a certain level of confidence that isn’t needed to hate something; mostly, it requires self-knowledge. And that’s what makes it scary, I think…
What DO you want, anyway?
Quite frankly, if you don’t like something, be it a job or a diet or a financial situation, you know you don’t like it, and why. It’s practically instinctive, like my aversion to spiders and call-center jobs.
To hell with my resume
I know some bloggers talk about taking the risk of walking away from everything and carrying no baggage and trusting in the process, and good for them. Me, I want a roof over my damn head. I want to know that if I walk away, I have some place to come back to. Call me a traditionalist.
Grieving Futures, post #2
I always tried to project some overall sense of wholeness; that although I was in despair and thunderstruck by events, I still was still functioning. But it did not feel that way. I felt sectioned. A piece of me was here, another there. I lived the role of daughter, caretaker, maid, and free spirit but these roles did not mix well, especially after the reasons for several of those roles – my parents – were dead.
Hope for Tomorrow
Desperation is a plea for external solutions; hope is created on the inside…
REC Saturday: Arlynda Boyer
A few weeks ago I posted about the idea of “a safe place to break”, where you sometimes don’t actually deal with a traumatic life experience until much later when you have arrived at a place or time that is safe. That idea originated with a fellow New College alum and...
Grieving Futures, Post #1
Authoria: Grieving Futures is my free book detailing my experiences dealing with the deaths of my parents when I was in my mid-twenties. You can download it, share it, copy it, whatever you want. My goal has always been to make it as widely and freely available as...
I’m a hardass! *shock*
I was really surprised the other day to find out that I’m a hardass. Now, I know I’m incredibly judgmental, and because I know that, I work really hard not to be because it is borne out of my own insecurities. It’s not fair to be a real hardass to other people based...
Tragedy changes us; Patience tempers us; Fortitude keeps us going.
Lessons in grief, crisis, and recovery from 30 years of life as an adult orphan from a GenX woman who has resentfully struggled every step of the way.
