Patience & Fortitude

Preface to the Original Edition (2010)

Preface to the Original Edition (2010)

by | Mar 11, 2024 | Grieving Futures

I am slowly posting the entirety of Grieving Futures: Surviving the Deaths of My Parents, here on Patience & Fortitude for free. You can still buy the book if you would like (doing so helps support my writing!). I am doing this to make it as available as possible...
Under the Desk

Under the Desk

by | Feb 26, 2024 | Grief

I don’t remember much about the time I spent living under my father’s desk. I have snatches of memory, here and there: crawling under it; getting out from under it to feed the dogs and myself; deciding that taking a pillow under there with me was allowed (giving...

Independence Day, 1996 – letter to a dead man

by | Mar 19, 2012 | Mourning

This letter is something I wrote about three months after my father died. It’s hard for me to read this letter; I was 26 and I think both my youth and my naiveté are pretty obvious, as well as my grief. I’ve changed a lot in the years since then. But I...

Grieving Futures: Part #17: The Happy Ending

by | Mar 12, 2012 | Reflections

We all want the Happy Ending, no matter how unlikely. I am still looking for it, and in the meantime, I own boxes and boxes of my parents’ keepsakes that I do not know what to do with. They were a unique sort of pack rats, keeping documents more than things, so...