Shards of grief – 20 years later

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Twenty years ago today, my mother died.

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because tumblr. because.

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I’ve started a companion tumblr for this blog: http://atheist-grief.tumblr.com It’s basically designed to be a “sound bite” type of blog, with reblogs of other tumblr posts and link-posts to articles/websites I find online that are interesting. This blog will remain more a longer-form essay style publication, which continues to be an evolving beast as I […]

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The Atheist in the Mist

The title here refers to the classic movie about anthropologist Dian Fossey, “Gorillas in the Mist” which became short-hand among anthropologists for studying any group as an outsider prone to endangerment. Sometimes used sarcastically (“Polyamorists in the Mists!”) or as a warning when entering a violent situation/area, it fits this post because recently I was […]

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Powerless Atheism, Human Strength

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Last week I bailed on facebook because of an encounter with a friend and fellow atheist, who dragged my character through the mud in order to justify his experiences with Alcoholics Anonymous. His entire argument rested on the fact that even an atheist can “accept a higher power” and that anyone who is unwilling to […]

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New Blog Post at Atheist Republic

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My latest blog post for Atheist Republic is now online: We are All Grieving Futures. Please check it out and leave a comment, I would love to hear from you!

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Senseless, Tragic and Stupid

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Talented, award-winning actor and all-round nice guy Phillip Seymour Hoffman died at some point on Sunday, Feb. 2, 2014 from (it is assumed) a drug overdose. He had a documented issue with addiction and so this goes down as another fabulous actor lost to drugs. I am reminded in a lot of ways of the […]

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I get to expert things?

I was talking to my colleague Jennifer Miracle about blogging and specifically about my upcoming debut as a columnist for Atheist Republic, where I will be writing about grief and mourning issues. I was talking about how I don’t feel much like an expert on the topic, especially since I’m not a counselor or therapist […]

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Accepting Fear

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I don’t follow too many celebrities on social media, since most of the time it’s clear their posts are being ghost-written or, worse, nothing is being written at all. I like George Takei and Clark Gregg and, especially, Jada Pinkett Smith. Her facebook posts are particularly thoughtful and poignant. She posted recently about how fear […]

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Love is my eternity

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The grieving atheist’s consolation is not in hope but in love. The theme of reunion runs through a lot of religions, and many people of faith rest the burden of their grief on the hope that someday they will be reunited with their loved ones. They believe that they will see their loved ones again. […]

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Living as the afterlife

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As a non-deist and skeptic, I view “after life” as the yawning, endless time that is experienced by those of us surviving the loss of a loved one: We are living after the life of someone else has ended. It’s an important role for us. We are all the after-life that the dead have; we […]

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